The 4 agreements

Author: Don Miguel Ruiz

  • We make agreements with ourselves

  • What is possible and what is not

  • This dictates our day

  • You have a judge and a victim inside you

  • Victim takes all the blame and the judge places these blames

  • We have energy within ourselves that replenishes everytime we rest

  • This energy is drained on bad agreements

  • There are 4 agreements that will restore this energy

  1. Be impeccable with your word
  2. Don’t take anything personally
  3. Don’t make assumptions
  4. Always do your best

1.Be impeccable with your word

  • Words are spells
  • Good and Bad spells
  • Everyone casts spell on others, like “Your voice is ugly”
  • Good spells “You sing amazing”
  • Worst spell: Gossip
    • “Misery likes company” #Quotes
    • “People suffering in hell dont want to be alone” #Quotes
  • Understand what the word is and what the word does
  • Self love is directly proportional to the impeccability of your word
  • Use words to break bad agreements that make you suffer:
    • Tell yourself how good you are
    • How amazing things you create

2.Don’t take anything personally

  • As soon as you agree (eg: “You are stupid”), Don’t take anything personally.
  • If someone give you an opinion, don’t take it personally
  • People give poision to you, if you take it, it becomes yours
  • What you think or do is a reflection of your personal agreements #think
    • If you think you’re worth this much, that is what you’ll project
  • The way you see the world, or think about me is not about me, it’s about you
  • Good thing or bad thing about you, don’t take anything personally

3.Don’t make assumptions

  • The problem with this is we believe it is true
  • It is always better to ask questions to make assumptions
  • We see things the way we want to see it sometimes even blind to reality. We don’t see things the way they are
  • We make assumptions because we lack the courage to ask questions

4.Always do your best

  • Your best will be changing everytime

  • Your best fresh in the morning will be different at night

  • Regardless of the quality, keep doing your best

  • When you overdo we deplete our body

  • If you always do your best there is no way you could judge yourself

  • If you take action without being attached to a reward you’ll enjoy the work

  • When you look back, you can always say “I did my best”

  • Action is living, inaction is fear

  • Expressing what you are is action

  • Forrest Gump, He did not have any great ideas but he always did his best in everything he did. He did not look for the reward but it came in huge amounts.

Conclusion

  • Become a warrier and always defend these agreements

Breaking old agreement

  • Make a list of all the agreements you have

  • changing the fear based agreements you had

  • Adopt the 4 agreements

  • [[Inventory of my existing agreements]]

  • Forgive everyone including yourself

    • Begining of freedom

The warrior

  • The warrior has awareness
  • has control
    • over one’s emotion and self
  • Angel of death can teach us how to live [[Memento Mori]]

See the world in different eyes on will

  • Make different eyes to look the world through
  • See yourself living your new life
  • Not afraid to say yes or no to anyone
  • No longer responsible for anyones opinion